Polite wording for a group gift or fiver party

Keep it optional and light

The key is making clear that coming matters more than giving. Say it once, briefly, and never mention amounts as an expectation.

Wording you can use

• “Please don't feel you need to bring a present. If you'd like to, Maya is saving for a bike and a small contribution towards it would mean a lot.”
• “We're doing a fiver party: if you'd like to give something, £5 in a card is perfect and lets Leo choose one thing he really wants.”
• “Your company is the best gift! For anyone who has asked, there's a short wishlist on the invite.”

Things to avoid

• Setting a minimum amount
• Mentioning gifts more than once
• Following up with people who didn't contribute

Say thank you to everyone

Thank every guest, whether they gave or not. A short message or a photo from the day goes a long way.